Choose Joy

I Choose Joy.

On average, I always feel like I am trying to get my life together. Like on a day-to-day basis I am stressed, overwhelmed, angry, sad, frustrated, disorganized, etc. I had enough. But I could not understand why I was a mess. What was I doing that was causing me to be a wreck? I thought to myself… I have so much to be proud of and so much to be grateful for… but yet I am not happy. I am not excited to wake up and start my day. I would gladly just lay in bed all day. Not because I hated the world or anything too dark… just because I wasn’t feeling it.

And then I said to myself, “What do you do that makes you happy?” Well… um…. I do a lot of things that bring me happiness and joy but none of them are directly related to me. The real question was, “What do I do for myself that makes ME happy?” FINALLY. I have found the answer… I hardly do things for myself. Although I do a lot of things that bring me joy, none of them are just for me – for my own happiness.

I got lost in all of the chaos of life, that I forgot to do the things that make me happy. I am wrapped up in all of the things that are coming up in my life that I forgot to do the day-to-day activities that bring me joy! I know that it is hard sometimes to make time for yourself, but it is so important! I have found that since I started doing the things I enjoy, I am happier, more energized, and excited for each and every day. If this is you, then I encourage you to make a list of things that make you happy! I am going to list mine below – maybe it will help you start yours.

Going To The Gym:

Okay, I know it is not too exciting for most people. But… I love working out. For a long time, I worked out almost everyday and I was in sports. I felt good about myself which made me happy! For the last few years, I gave up. I stopped working out because I was “busy”. I gained weight and started to feel crappy about myself. I almost started to think that I was too far gone and I couldn’t possibly come back from it. Fast forward to 2018 and I have embraced the “New Year, New Me” cliché. I am working out 3-4 times a week with my best friend and I feel better about myself everyday! Not only am I becoming a healthier verison of myself, but I am doing it for ME!

Spending Time With Friends:

This is simple. Make time for the people you love. I didn’t for nearly a year and I will always regret that. Life gets busy but it will NEVER be too busy to spend time with the people who you love and care for. Don’t get me wrong, I love hanging out with my significant other and our families. But there is just something about “girl time” that is good for the soul.


Take time to sit on the couch and watch a show or a movie. Take a bath. Get a mani/pedi. Read a book. Save the laundry for tomorrow – you’ll be fine. Quit stressing about housework and work and what you are going to make for dinner and bills you have to pay and everything else. Sit down and enjoy yourself. You deserve it. I deserve it. I am much happier when I set aside time to relax.

Letting Go (Spilt Milk):

First of all, I would like to thank one of my co-workers for mentioning this one day. The meaning behind this really spoke to me and I am grateful for the idea. I am sure you have all heard the saying… Don’t Cry Over Spilt Milk. I found myself freaking out over little things. The dishwasher wasn’t loaded correctly, the clothes are sitting by the hamper and not IN the hamper, the bed wasn’t made this morning, and the list goes on and on. This little saying is so beyond true. Why do I care so much about how the dishwasher was loaded? Why does it matter? It should not matter. There are far more important things to worry about than “spilt milk.” Once I grasped this concept, I found myself enjoying life just a little more. Little things can add up, and if you are worried about all of the little things, then you are worried about A LOT of things. Ease up. Spilt Milk.

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